When You Should Reply.

“Oh just say nothing, Lizzie.” Is a statement that made me extremely mad tonight as someone who I thought I knew made a distasteful joke on Facebook.

TRIGGER WARNING: R*pe

On a Facebook meme circulating which was “Comment something that pisses you off during sex” an acquaintance replied “When the drugs wear off and she starts to wake up.” My blood instantly boiled.

As someone who knows victims of date rape drugs, as a young woman who went to a college and was extensively taught about how to lookout for herself because men cannot be trusted to not slip something into their drinks, this made me more than angry. And then I had to ask myself the question, should I comment or should I say nothing?

In this instance, I replied “R*pe jokes aren’t funny.” to which began a disagreement. On his part, mansplaining how it’s all a metaphor and how waking up isn’t always used in a literal sense, thinking he could reverse his words and turn himself into a deep, loving and sensual male; not taking on the implications of his words. Of course, I called him out on his bullshit and discussed date r*pe drug and party culture as well as the time that a pill was slipped into my drink. But surprisingly, something else makes me so much more angry.

After my simple initial comment, someone said to me “Oh just say nothing, Lizzie.” I couldn’t. Why should I stay silent when a person is making such insensitive jokes about such a serious topic. Why should anyone stay silent? Is this the reason that certain topics are too taboo to speak of? Is it why victim blaming exists? Is staying silent the difference between someone living their life thinking it is fine to negatively impact others’ lives or should we say something in the hope of educating them to realise that maybe, just maybe, they should think of what they’re actually saying.

According to the ABS, 77,400 people over the age of 18 in Australia were victims of sexual assault in 2015-16. That is more than 210 people EVERYDAY. More than 210 people everyday, and people believe it is still alright to joke about it. Where is the support.

So, if you see or hear something along these lines, please speak up. Please tell them that it is not okay, it is NEVER okay to write or say jokes about these topics.

If you are in need of help please visit the following sites, no matter how alone you feel, there is always someone to help.

https://www.1800respect.org.au 

http://www.rape-dvservices.org.au

https://au.reachout.com/articles/sexual-assault-support

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Our First Anniversary!

I’d like to start by wishing WordPress and myself a happy one year anniversary!

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I logged on today to write a post about how it’s going to be a ‘new uni session, new blogging me’ type year and believe it or not, that notification actually inspired me to try harder.

So here we go:

First things first, this is my 3rd year of uni, second year in this course and I did come into this session as excited for my classes as when I began. Yes, I am a loser, I am aware of that #JustBCMThings. But there are a few things I know that I am going to have to work on this session.

    1. This morning on my first morning walking to my tutorial I saw what I assume was a first year walking to class wearing booty shorts and high heels. I am not here to judge but please, first years, relax. This session I will not make a disgusted face when I see that at 8:30am again. People will be people, I wear jeans and a shirt, she wears high heals, It is not my concern. But also:

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    2. When I come to the library to do my reading report. I should do my reading report, not procrastinate by writing a blog post whilst watching Married at First Sight.

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    3. I have said it 4 times now but 5th time’s a charm, I WILL attend my lectures. For once I have no reason to skip my lectures. They fit in with my timetable perfectly, this is my year! I can do it (ignoring the one lecture that I have already skipped on Monday, oops).
    4. And lastly, this session I am going to enter group projects with a positive view. Yes, in the past, they have had their negative points but if I can be more positive, it will make the whole experience more pleasant for everyone. No one likes it but we all have to do it so we may as well try to make the best of every situation!

So there are my goals, I guess we’ll soon find out if I can follow them or not. Stay tuned for new blog posts as often as I can be bothered to do them.

Good luck with the new session everyone! May we all at least pass our subjects.

 

 

Here we go…

Wooh! First blog post on wordpress!

As you can see from my URL, it will not come as a surprise to know that I am Lizzie. I am a student at the University of Wollongong, studying a Bachelor of Communications and Media Studies.

(Is this where I insert a meme?)

I’m 20 years old (and surprisingly not the oldest in the class) from a small sheltered town in the middle of nowhere. I’m sure you’ll hear more about that later.

It’s hard to say why you may be looking at my blog, are you another student, or are you my tutor marking my posts (can I please have a HD)? Either way, I hope my blog will give you some insight into what I am studying and its relevance in the world and our future.

For now though, I will just try to learn how to use this website. (I wish I was joking)

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